Inner Bonding: Integrating Your Inner Selves
Inner bonding is about aligning with your true self as a human and spiritual being on this planet. It’s about experiencing life from a place of openness, patience, and a willingness to realign. Often, we focus on doing and achieving outcomes. Inner bonding, however, is not about outcomes. It’s about being in harmony with the universe and embodying unconditional love. It’s about becoming the person you are meant to be.
Read on to discover how this transformative process can change your life and help you find true inner peace and fulfillment.
The Three Selves
At any given time, we have three selves at play:
The Wounded/ Inner Child: This self holds our emotions and fears. Often mistaken for the ego, the wounded inner child is frequently suppressed or ignored. This is a mistake. When we start listening to this self, it can be incredibly powerful.
The Loving Adult: This self represents our grown-up, mature side.
The Higher Self: Also known as the future self, this is the most authentic part of who we are.
These three selves coexist within us. When we connect, integrate, and facilitate dialogue between them, a significant shift occurs. Particularly, listening to the inner child is crucial because these emotions hold profound wisdom. Rather than trying to get rid of these feelings, we should aim to feel and understand them. Ignoring them only leads to more disconnect, inner conflict, and outer challenges.
The Process: 6 Steps to Inner Bonding
Now, let’s dive into the 6 steps that make up the inner bonding process. These steps will help you connect and harmonize your inner selves:
Willingness to Listen: Shift to a willingness to listen to your wounded inner self.
Heart Connection: Move into your heart with your loving adult self.
Dialogue: Open up a dialogue with your inner child. Ask questions from your loving adult self and listen. Play both roles.
Learn from Your Higher Self: Shift into learning with your higher self. This self is always loving and not based on fear. Listen to this part of yourself.
Take Loving Action: Take loving action based on what your higher self communicated to your wounded child. This action comes from being still, open, and listening.
Check-In: Go back inside and check how you feel. Are you present? Calm? Did something shift? If not, return to step 1.
(Credit: Dr. Margaret Paul)
This process takes time and practice. Don’t rush it. At first, your inner child may not be trusting of you so you may not hear anything. Be patient with yourself as you learn to navigate and integrate these parts of your being. It’s something you can incorporate into your daily practices like journaling so find a way to be consistent with it even if only for a few moments a day.
When you follow this process, anytime you are feeling out of harmony with yourself or with life, you immediately realign with all of you and life becomes simple, you feel at ease in the most challenging situations and you have energy and space for what you are meant to create in this world.
Deeper Insights & Healing
The new connection formed through inner bonding is incredibly powerful. Seamlessly integrating your three selves — the wounded/inner child, the loving adult, and the higher self (future self, divine self) — is key to understanding yourself fully. Inner bonding enables you to align your past experiences, present awareness, and future aspirations into a cohesive whole. This process shifts your perspective from a linear view of time to a more fluid and interconnected understanding. In essence, it challenges the notion of time as a rigid construct; some even believe that the past, present, and future coexist simultaneously, allowing for deeper insights and healing across all dimensions of your life.
The Takeaway
Inner bonding offers a profound journey toward self-discovery and alignment. By integrating and harmonizing our wounded inner child, loving adult, and higher self, we create a powerful connection that fosters genuine inner peace and wisdom. This practice isn't about achieving specific outcomes but about embracing the present moment and living authentically. Through inner bonding, we can transform our relationship with ourselves and the world around us, cultivating a deeper sense of love and fulfillment. Embrace this process with openness, patience, and a willingness to grow, and you will discover the true essence of who you are meant to be.