Processing Your Emotional Baggage - Week #10 of The Awakening Journey

Processing your emotional baggage is a little like doing your work. Except we are going quite a bit deeper. Doing your work means looking at things at a higher level, touching the surface, clearing up things that appear daily. Processing your emotional baggage on the other hand means going deep - very deep.  

What does processing your emotional baggage mean?

Processing your emotional baggage is what we should do when we continue to see repeat patterns after owning our impact and doing our work. For example, when you own your impact but continue to yell at or be angry with the kids or your significant other. This pattern is a signpost that there is something to process there.   

It means to really dial into what you are holding onto and simply cannot let go of. It’s buried deep and it can be scary to unearth this. I know this sounds hard, but it’s an important and necessary step in your Awakening Journey. 

Processing your emotional baggage means finding out what your deep triggers are and what “traumas” are associated with them. Don’t be afraid of or attached to this word trauma.

A trauma is anything that has happened in the past that has stayed with you mentally, physically, energetically, or emotionally. 

Often, when we are younger, events happen that we are not able to deal with and therefore cannot process or release. 

What happens is that we carry a signature of this experience in our very wise body-brain-heart-energy field and it holds us back in so many ways in life.

Or figuratively speaking your emotional backpack is what is holding you back in all aspects of your life. 

What happens when you release your emotional baggage?

You will experience energy returning to you, lightness, and space that you are able to fill up with creative efforts, success and prosperity where you haven’t before. 

When you process your emotional baggage, the ratio of your success goes up. Why? Because your interior condition determines your success and when you are clear of the garbage, your interior is clear and what you create will have a much stronger impact. 

“The success of an intervention depends on the interior condition of the intervener.”
- Bill OBrien, Former CEO Hanover Insurance

Ways to process your emotional baggage: 

Physically, energetically, spiritually, and mentally.

For example, The Work, QFH*, CBT, EMDR, Neurofeedback, meditation, or you could journal very deeply and burn it afterward, rip it up and flush it down the toilet. 

*QFH is for trauma from narcissism but it can be used for anything. It's the most effective tool I’ve ever seen for energetic healing.

Here is a short example from my life: 

I was working with someone with whom I had quite a bit invested. We had a conflict. He refused to clean it up. He wanted to ignore it and just focus on strategizing for what to do going forward.

This is the definition of a dirty container. It's like putting a piece of poo in the middle of the room and leaving it. It's always going to be there. It smells bad and no one wants to go in or near that room.

This is what it is like in relationships when we don’t intentionally clean things up.

After a while, this can create emotional baggage. Instead of allowing that to happen, I chose to use QFH on an energetic level and The Book of Forgiveness by Archbishop Desmond Tutu to process my emotional baggage. 

And I then chose powerfully to release the professional relationship and haven't looked back. Someone new came into my life professionally and that has unleashed co-creative energy I’ve been “striving for” for years.  

Your Practice

Processing your emotional baggage is a long-term commitment. This is why this week’s practice is not just for this week. It’s something you may have to work on for a longer period of time.

What I recommend is that you start by choosing one area in your life that you feel stuck with. One pattern that you haven’t been able to process and try one of the practices listed above.

Let me know how it is going and if you have any questions!

Next week we will talk about forgiveness as a necessary stop on your awakening journey.

In the meanwhile remember the present moment is where your best life happens.

With love, presence and gratitude,

Darla