The Magic of Creating Yourself

Creating yourself is powerful and transformative. Whether you're feeling stuck in an unfulfilling career, a relationship that is exhausting, or a chain of difficult experiences that have left you wounded, committing to creating yourself every day can have a profound impact on your life. In this blog post, we'll explore what it means to create yourself and how to use this practice to get unstuck and move forward, no matter where you are in your journey. 

So, grab a notebook, sit down, and get ready to start creating yourself!

What does it mean ‘to create yourself’?

Recently, one of my clients went through a tough situation at work. She felt like she was being trampled on by her boss and colleagues. She spent some time wallowing in self-pity, but after a week of feeling sorry for herself, she found herself stuck in that sadness, hurt and disappointment.

It's important to honor your feelings but when you find yourself stuck, it's time to step out of it and create yourself. 

Think of it as a daily ritual, like brushing your teeth or putting on your clothes. But instead of just going through the motions, you're actively creating the reality you want. When you commit to creating yourself, you are signaling to the universe that you are ready to operate at your highest possible potential.

Creating yourself means imagining and embodying the person you want to become. It's like playing dress-up, but for your whole, most authentic self. 

How do you create yourself? 

We are always creating. You are creating yourself right now. Consciously or unconsciously. We wake up and think and feel our way into our day. We think “Oh, it’s going to be a wonderful day” or “Ugh, I don’t want to go to work”. 

We're all creators, whether we're aware of it or not. Every thought, feeling, and action is like a brushstroke on the canvas of our lives. When we declare who we are and who we want to be in the world, we enable ourselves to paint with purpose.

What happens when we get stuck like my client?

She was stuck seeing herself as the victim and so believed it to be her absolute truth. She made that her reality. You know how when you lose your car keys and run late, you say “It’s going to be a bad day” and then it is? It’s kinda like that. It's easy to fall into the trap of victimhood and believe that our reality is set in stone. 

Finally, after coaching my client around this, it was time for a hard truth: She was responsible for the reality she believed in and lived into. Does this mean she was wrong or bad? That she made bad things happen? No, it means that when she labeled things as bad, had a feeling about them, attached to them and then continued that storyline to the point where they became an absolute truth for her, she was shutting down from “what else could be true”. 

We're responsible for the reality we believe in and live into. It's like we're wearing rose-colored glasses that only allow us to see what we want to see. So, how do we remove those glasses and start creating the reality we want? 

Your Challenge

The first step is to imagine the self you want to see. Do you want to be more confident? More adventurous? More empathetic? 

Then, commit to creating yourself every day. 

See yourself being that person, and act/behave your way into it. 

Think of it like method acting, but for your life. 

Creating yourself is not just for when things are going well or badly. It's a lifelong practice that helps us navigate every aspect of life with resilience and purpose. So, take the challenge and start creating yourself today. Who knows, you might surprise yourself what you are able to create.