Road Trip of Life - Trust Your Path, You Are Exactly Where You Need to Be

So many people I talk to are hard on themselves about where they are in life. It doesn’t matter where they’ve come from, how hard they worked, or whether they started in the gutter and ended up in a penthouse in Manhattan. They “should” always be somewhere else. In this blog post, we'll explore why it's important to stop comparing ourselves to others and judging ourselves for not achieving enough. So sit back, relax, and let's explore how you can embrace where you're at in life and trust that you're on the right path.

STOP Questioning & Judging 

Well, I wouldn’t say don’t question. Questioning in and of itself is perfectly wonderful. But so many people I encounter judge where they are at. They “haven’t done enough”. They “should have already gotten “this”. This life, this learning, this spiritual practice. 

The other thing I hear:  I haven’t done enough.  I jump into something, then stop it and don’t “finish it”.  They are hard on themselves for that. 

I say GOOD freaking job. You jumped into something. Celebrating you!

JUMP is the operative word. Jump, take a risk, and try something new, different, wild, and creative. If you don’t like it, it doesn’t resonate, so what???

Let that garbage story go. 

Do you know I used to force myself to read a book from cover to cover because that is what you are supposed to do? Even if I hated the book, I would make myself plow through it.  No idea why but it was an unconscious garage story.  What is the point of that?

My mind/saboteur/ego thinking mind whatever says that’s the way it’s done.  

A long time ago I made a new decision: I will read a book a couple of chapters in. Then I will slow down and ask: is this serving me where I am right now? Or am I avoiding something?  Then I listen.  

I’m talking about reading a book here but this could be for anything - a class, a job, or even someone you are dating or your relationship.

For example, I worked with someone who was incredible and successful. She definitely had a growth mindset and I would say learning or development were among her top values. She would berate herself often about some class she took, or how she should be “further along the path”.

You are exactly where you need to be!

Your Roadtrip

Life is like a long road trip, and we're all driving our own cars. Some of us are cruising down the highway at top speed, while others are taking the scenic route and enjoying the journey. But no matter how fast or slow we're driving, we're all headed towards the same destination.

It's easy to get caught up in comparing our own cars to others. We might see someone driving a fancy sports car and feel envious, or see a beat-up old car and feel embarrassed. But the truth is, the type of car we drive doesn't matter as much as the destination we're headed towards.

When we judge ourselves for not having achieved enough, it's like getting lost on a road trip. We start to doubt our own abilities and feel like we're never going to get where we want to go. But just like how we can pull over and ask for directions, we can seek guidance and support when we're feeling lost.

And just like how a car needs regular maintenance and fuel to keep running smoothly, we too need to take care of ourselves to reach our destination. We need to refuel with healthy habits and self-care practices and make sure we're taking breaks when we need them.

In conclusion, focus on your own journey and trust that you're exactly where you need to be on your road trip of life. Enjoy the scenery and appreciate the little moments along the way, rather than constantly comparing yourself to others. And take care of yourself and seek support when you need it, so you can reach your destination feeling happy and fulfilled. Just like a car that reaches its destination at its own pace, you too will achieve your goals in your own time.

Your Challenge:

Make a list of unfinished things, mistakes or things you are hard on yourself for. 

Write down what you learned from those unfinished things.

How has that learning shaped you into the person you are right now?

Commit to one way you are going to accept where you are in your journey right now. 

I.e. create a new mantra, repeat some affirmations, create a timeline, and share it with someone and celebrate!

“How do you know this is the experience you are supposed to be having? Because it is the experience you are having.”  - Eckhart Tolle.