Creating The Movie of Your Life: Acting into Your Own Story

You are a movie star. Did you know that? You are the star of your own movie. You are the main actor in your own play. And you are also the director, the producer, the writer, and you create all the supporting actors. So whatever is not working in your life, and whatever you're not getting in this movie of yours, this is the blog post to show you how to get it. 

What does it mean “to act into your movie”? 

In our evolution of consciousness in our being in the world, we are literally creating reality. There are so many schools of thought out there, from ‘the law of attraction’ to ‘what you focus on, you create more of’ that demonstrate this. The common principle is, that what we pivot toward, we're going to create more of whether that's negativity or positivity. This sounds really simple because fundamentally, it is.

What does this look like in real life?

I was working with a client who was going through a difficult situation in his life. [I want you to read his story as if it were about you. Even though this is about him and his relationship with his child, this could easily be about your relationship with your boss, co-worker, or your clients.] 

He was sharing the struggles with his child since he separated from the child's mother. There was something under the surface that I was listening to and I wasn't quite sure exactly what it was. As we explored it further, it became clear: He had made up a story that he knew how this relationship would end. That he and his child were and will be disconnected. He believed that they were disconnected and that the child was closer to their mother. 

He was acting in his own movie as if he were a supporting actor, a bit player, a person who's doing a cameo or an extra.

The truth is that he should be the main actor, the headliner, and the star of the show while also being the writer, producer and supporting actor. 

How can that be? 

Because how he shows up, and how he acts creates the reality around him. It creates how his movie is going right now. And it will also create how his movie ends. 

You know how sometimes you wake up and you're like, oh, my gosh, I woke up late, I'm gonna have a bad day. It's already going bad because I've started off badly. And guess what the rest of your day goes poorly. This is exactly that. It’s super simple. That same thing works for the rest of your life, with you being the writer and the main character of your movie. 

It means that there's a subtle, unconscious, or subconscious way we are creating our movie.

The client I'm working with is creating the story, the narrative of how he is being with his child. He's writing the script that they're disconnected. And guess what does that create out there? 

His child feels more disconnected from him. Maybe they're not cognitively aware of it. Maybe they are. Maybe they're making up their own stories cognitively. But on some level, even if they're not aware of it, they're creating more disconnect. 

He's acting into this narrative into this belief that he is not the author of the story. He is not the scriptwriter, he is not the producer. He was creating his life as if he was just some person who walked in off the street.

What is the solution? 

The solution is to look at places in your own life where you are acting in the movie of your life in an unconscious way. Where you're not being intentional and mindful about the narrative that you're creating. 

Life is always going to be filled with ups and downs. That’s just life and that's okay. What I'm challenging you with is to live it in a way that's intentional. Okay, what do I mean by that? I mean, slowing the movie down, putting it on pause. Whether that's in your imaginary mind on your laptop, or, on the movie screen, if you're imagining it in a theater. Put it on pause.

If there's a co-worker that you are maybe subtly avoiding, because they called you out on something, or because they're just a pain to work with. Notice it. Bring awareness to it. Slow this down. Put your movie on pause and ask yourself, where am I acting into a narrative that I don't want?

That is just one example. It could also be your mother-in-law or some activity you don't want to do with your kids or a project that you've been avoiding working on.

How can you shift this narrative? 

How can you be the movie star and also be writing the script at the same time? Ask yourself, what is the script, the narrative you want to write, and then start acting into that. Because here's what's going to come from that. People, places, and things are going to shift your movie. Your storyline is going to start to shift to create bigger and better things. 

You're going to create more success in your life. 

You're going to feel excited. 

You're going to start to see your movie outside of yourself from a place of conscious awareness. 

As you do, you will evolve your consciousness. And that is what brings you more peace and fulfillment, joy, and bliss. 

Your Challenge

Look for places where your script isn't going the way you want where your movies not working and see how you're acting into that. And flip that script.

Be the award-winning Oscar movie star. 

Create, in your movie, what it is that you want to see unfold. 

I want you to co-create your movie in a very intentional way so that you can win at the end, whatever that means for you. Whether that's getting the girl or the guy, the money, the cars, the job, the happily ever after.