90 Days of The Impossible: What I Really Learned

It’s been 90 days since I started my impossible project—and I made it to the end.

But here’s the truth: it was never really about finishing.

The real secret?
It was about getting into the energy of creating.

That’s where the magic is.

Over the course of this wild and wonderful commitment, I discovered so much more than I expected. And while yes, I did complete it, the gold was in the experience.

Here are three powerful lessons I’m taking with me:

1. Creation is everything.

It’s not about the end game. It’s always about creating.
The process itself brings life. It’s the source. The spark. The joy.

2. When the stakes feel low, the fun returns.

Taking on something that feels impossible is surprisingly freeing.
Why? Because when I believe it might not be possible, I let go of the pressure—and I open up to joy.
That energy—light, playful, open—is where creativity lives.
And it’s available in any project, not just the “impossible” ones.

3. This life is mine to play.

When I remember that I’m the one making the rules, everything shifts.
The game becomes mine again.
And the rules? I get to rewrite them.

Now here’s the twist: I did finish the project… but for a while, I didn’t think I had.

It wasn’t until a friend gently pointed it out that I realized:
Oh. I actually did complete it.
And in that moment, I saw something powerful—
It’s all about perspective.

Throughout the journey, my thoughts shaped my experience.
From impossible to possible to probable to real—every stage reflected what I believed was true in that moment.

What was the quest?

To get a six-pack before my 50th birthday.
Not because I had to. Not because it was another responsibility.
But because it sounded fun.
It was a quest I could commit to wholeheartedly—and I did.

And as I shifted on the inside, the world around me shifted too.

At one point, someone told me, “Women can’t get defined abs.”
In the past, I might have taken that personally—seen them as unsupportive, wondered why I’d even shared.
But not this time. I just blocked it out.
Then, a month later, that same person said:
“You already have them—they’re just covered up.”
He then showed me how to start to bring them out.

Here’s the aha: he hadn’t actually changed what he was saying.
I changed what I was able to hear.
He explained that women can absolutely have defined abs—it just takes focused effort to reveal what’s already there.

The truth had been available all along.
But I could only receive it when I was ready.

And isn’t that life?

We don’t hear truth until we’re ready.
We filter the world through the lens of our current thinking.
We create our reality with our thoughts—moment by moment.

So the biggest takeaway?

Change your thinking, and you change your reality.

You are the creator.
You always were.